31 Dec 2019 in Reflection
Another year has come to an end and I can’t quite believe it has. Its zoomed by and each year that we see seems to get faster and faster. Is this what getting old feels like? I don’t like it!
But while the thousands start sharing their resolutions that, let’s face it hardly get stuck to, I like to do things a bit differently and encourage others to do the same…
I have never really been that sort of person who’ll shout out about what I’m going to do this year, what plans I have, what I’m going to achieve – simply because of how silly I would look when I don’t actually do them! That might be because plans change, due to pure laziness or just because 6 months down the line that ‘resolution’ just isn’t important anymore but you know what I mean right? You see the posts on social media, the “I’m going to lose 10 stone, by March!” and “I’m going to climb Mount Tomanivi, twice!” and then March comes and you hear nothing more about it. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not in anyway mocking those people. I think it’s great to have goals, I set them myself from time to time, I just think it’s better to set them in your head, that way if you don’t do it only you know you didn’t do it!
You can’t see into the future can you? But you can look back on the past… So, I like to spend this day looking back on the last 12 months, reflecting and learning.
What have I done? Did I learn any new skills? Did I go through any big changes? Will I be taking anything I’ve learned with me into this new year. What will I be leaving in the past? To me, this seems like a far better way to spend your thoughts – You should give it a try too!
I find it’s a more positive way to look on, rather than trying to focus on something part of you knows you might not achieve, or trying to dream up an unrealistic resolution just to trump your neighbour or friend!
For me this year has seen some big decisions. Scary decisions. Decisions that I’d been needing to make for a while but was too scared to make. Thankfully it paid off and I was able to put an end to a miserable time and start to be me again!
It’s also marked the start of something new for our little family. A little family with big and exciting plans for the future.
It was the year that our big boy started school and was the last year before our little boy goes off to school too. The mixed feelings that that brings has been so overwhelming for me and honestly quite hard to get my head around. I’m not a huge fan of change and don’t like my babies growing up so fast!
So give it a go! Write it down and keep it to look at and compare next year, actually learn something from one year to the next… Its really quite cleansing!
- What did I do this year?
Well, I put some big plans in place for our future.
I finally took that leap and left the group that I’d created, sad as it was it was the best decision for me.
We moved to the farmhouse, that was a big change!
- Did I learn any new skills?
I’ve learned a lot about myself this year. I never knew that I had it in me to be so crafty! I also didn’t realise how much I like it. Doing our house up has been much more enjoyable than I ever thought it would be and I’ve loved sharing my changes with my followers and offering advice and tips. I’ve also found a love for photography!
- Did I go through any big changes?
Moving to the farmhouse has certainly been a huge change for all of us. It had never been on the cards before so it was something we had to get our heads around, and quickly too. My father in law had lived his whole life in the farmhouse so the biggest change was definitely with him. Farmer Ben moved back into his childhood home, into his childhood bedroom which was odd for him. And I felt like it would be a mammoth task to redecorate every inch to get it right for us but it’s finally looking like it’s getting there. Our boys are better off here and we definitely feel more attached to the farm.
Stepping back from the group (The Crazy Life of a Farmer’s Wife™️) was a huge change and was hard to do. Giving your ‘baby’ over to another when you’ve worked so hard and literally put your all into was difficult but after all the nastiness I’d recieved for two years, all the lies, it was clear that it needed doing and I’m so glad that I no longer experience all the negativity.
- What will I be taking with me & what will I be leaving in the past?
I’m definitely keeping this calmer more chilled Chloe with me. The stressed one can stay in 2019!
One thing that I’ve learned that I’ll be sure to take with me is that you can’t keep everyone happy, and it’s not your job to keep everyone happy. Somebody said to me at the start of this year when I was down and out about some particularly nasty keyboard warriors was “just because you’re invited to the party (bitch fight) doesn’t mean you have to attend. How true is this! I took this advice and it definitely paid off – Thank you to that man.
*Top Tip ~ Get a jar and throughout the year pop down your best bits. This could be a favourite place you visited, something funny that happened or something hilarious that somebody said. Write them down on a piece of paper as they happen, fold them up and pop them in the jar. On New Year’s Eve get the family together and open the jar. You’ll all love reminiscing all of the Crazy, funny and best bits of your year!
So that’s kind of my year in review I guess. A lovely little reflection session to help move into the next year and something I believe everyone should do.
I feel ready for you 2020!
What about you? What have you learned this year?
Kiss Kiss & keep dancing,