01 Oct October – National Domestic Violence Awareness Month
October marks National Domestic Violence Awareness month and I felt that I needed to do something in order to share such vital information with as many as possible.
Ever since the birth of The Crazy Life of a Farmer’s Wife I have seen one very common trend within the Facebook Chat Group… Many women seem to be suffering abuse at the hands of their partner.
Over the last four years I have received hundreds of messages from members of the Facebook group (and also via the website too) from women who feel trapped and feel that they can’t get out. From women who are too scared to get out through fear of being hurt, or their children being hurt. And sadly, from women who don’t even know that they are being abused, or worse, they know but they just don’t have the energy to do anything about it.
It’s really hard to read these heart-breaking messages and not really be able to do anything to physically help these women, because all I want to do is get in the car and go to them, pack up their things and bring them to safety and happiness!
I have been there to listen and give advice, I have tried to send the ladies that I have spoken to enough strength and resources to “get out”. I have put them in touch with other ladies who have been through the same and have found the strength to escape but ultimately the key to their happiness, their freedom and the rest of their lives is with them. All I can do is to continue to share information in the hope that the women who need it will see it, or it will be passed onto to somebody who needs to see it.
Maybe you don’t know that its abuse because it seems so subtle.
Maybe you think “He doesn’t hit me so it can’t be abuse”.
Maybe you are adamant that you aren’t in an abusive relationship at all, and that’s great but please just give this a quick read because it might just be that when you start reading things might start to sound familiar. This could be the beginning of the rest of your life.
What is Domestic Abuse?
When someone you know treats you badly. It is when people do things like:
Bullying you – picking on you, shouting at you and saying nasty things about you.
Hurting you – hitting you, pushing you, kicking you or hurting you in other ways.
Controlling you – making you do things that you don’t want to, stopping you going out or seeing friends.
Breaking your things.
Sexually abusing you.
Domestic abuse is wrong and if you feel that you are being abused you should contact the police. If you are too scared to contact the police then somebody can do it on your behalf.
Have you heard of Clare’s Law?
Clare Wood was just 36 years old when she was killed by her boyfriend. Clare’s Law gives people the right to find out if their partner has a history of violence.
You can ask the police for information about your partner or ex-partner. The law also allows those close to you who may be worried about you to ask the police for information.
What you can do if you think that you are being abused, or think that somebody you know is:
Go to a police station and talk to someone
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger you need to call 999
Victim Care Unit – 01392 475900
Victim Support – 0300 303 0554
National Domestic Abuse Helpline – 0800 999 5428
Men’s Advice Line – 0808 801 0327
Stalking Helpline – 0808 802 0300